If Not For You
It was thirty-nine years ago his past August sixteenth since Elvis Presley’s died and the reason I’m sharing this because I had an aunt & uncle that grew up, met and were married listening to his music. In fact, they loved Elvis’s music their entire lives and managed to get just about everyone on both sides of their family’s hooked on him.
They were together for more than forty-five years and both worked extremely hard, struggled to get everything they had, were generous to a fault and always had a very welcoming home.
It was just before my aunt was about to retire that they both decided to sell their original family home in the city and buy their dream house on the water in a small country village.
They had only spent a single summer there when the unthinkable happened, one very foggy November morning my aunt left for work and being unfamiliar with the roads, coupled with the intense amount of fog, accidentally rolled her car through a stop sign and into the path of an oncoming vehicle.
She died instantly, leaving behind her husband, three adult children, seven grand children, three sisters, a brother, numerous sister & brother in-laws, dozens of nieces & nephews, and many friends.
It will be eleven years this coming November sixteenth since that tragic day and three years ago this past January, also on the sixteenth that her husband passed away. I can still remember listening to Elvis’s song; Loving Arms the day my uncle died.
It’s amazing how a song, coupled with the same dates that my aunt and uncle passed away on, can magically captivate the essence of their lives. I am grateful for having known them and miss them both.
I remember being asked to speak at my Aunt’s funeral and was faced with the incredible honor, and unenviable task of trying to convey my own feelings, as well as everyone else’s during this very emotional time.
This is what I decided to say; I sincerely hope it brings some small measure of solace to anyone grieving the sudden and unexpected loss of a person dear to his or her own heart.
If Not For You
If not for you we may never have known,
The magic in marrying ones soul mate,
The pleasure of a sister in-laws company
Or the laughter shared with an aunt.
We would not have felt,
The delight in a mother’s joy,
The passion of a grandmother’s pride.
Or the sorrow in her loss.
If not for you, we may never have seen,
The compassion and generosity of one
Who could not always, afford to give.
Or the worry that came with both.
We could not have shared,
The depth of a sister’s love,
The grief in a friend’s passing
Or the anguish of a relationship lost.
If not for you, we would have nothing to rejoice.
©2005 Richard Lawrence Belford
About the Author: Richard Lawrence Belford is a father of two daughters and the eldest of three sons who grew up in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada. He has been on a twenty-year creative journey that’s been fueled by his genuine desire to provide faith, comfort and hope to those in grief. This creative journey has not only allowed Richard to become a well published Inspirational Writer, but has also afforded him the privilege of sharing his universally heartfelt sentiments with others, sentiments that celebrate life, provide comfort, inspire faith and honor the memory of those dear to our hearts.
He’s also written a bereavement book that includes a collection of his inspirational parables, accompanied by the stories behind their creation. It is entitled; “It’s Not Goodbye, It’s See You Later” and genuinely hopes that those who read it will be inspired to always say;” I’ll see you later, instead of goodbye.”
A parable by definition is a symbolic short story that illustrates or teaches some truth, religious principle or moral lesson and trusts that his parables, along with these stories will stir some emotions in you that we’ve all felt, emotions that can help bring some small measure of solace to those suffering the loss of someone dear to their heart.
Richard’s inspirational parables have been illustrated with photography on a series of wall plaques beautifully designed by Red Photo Art & Imaging that are professionally printed on metallic photographic paper, have a UV protective laminate complete with a contemporary black beveled edge.
“If Not For You” and many equally inspiring products featuring Richard’swritings can be viewed by visiting his website’s product gallery at the following link: www.richardlawrencebelford.ca/product-gallery.php
He hopes to have his book published in the near future and is not only looking to partner with a suitable publishing company, but also with a designer, manufacturer and international wholesale canvas wall décor distributor.
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