I’ve Survived. Now what …?

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I’ve Survived. Now what …?

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Trauma, drama, hardship, severe mental or physical diseases. Every day we hear and read stories on these topics. For some it might just be a story, for others, it is real.

We often read the stories of survivors. And yet, even more stories stay untold, unspoken, unprocessed. Just think of survivors of combat and war…. In the stories that reach us, we read about their thoughts, feelings, hopes, difficulties and challenges. We have empathy with their situation or we feel inspired by how they overcame their obstacles. Some stories have a very sad ending, but many personal stories tell us about the positive changes and developments. We like to connect with the survivor, the hero who made it, and who is now in a positive space, living happily ever after. We are inspired by outstanding personalities that sometimes even become a media sensation and whose stories go viral.

But what we actually don’t often read about is: how  they made it. What led to the dramatic change from hardship to happiness, from disease to ease? And what about the millions out there who are stuck, suffering and who are still in pain?

Yes, we read these stories and we are inspired. They often give us hope that one day our own lives will magically turn into bliss.

Yes, we’ve survived. And now what? What’s the secret to happiness?

Well, in the first place, maybe a different question: What actually happened to us? Are we kind of stuck in all the drama and the trauma? Can it be that we felt or even still feel guilt and shame, or if not, are we in denial about it?

What if our secrets are making us sick or are paralyzing us? What if confronting these secrets is the untold part of the stories we like to read about? What if processing the situations, the emotions and related traumas and fears would set us free?

Perhaps you’ve already mastered your personal story or perhaps you’re in the midst of understanding what your story involves. Either way, more and more people are discovering storytelling, therapeutic writing as the most beneficial and rewarding form, articulating their experience, processing the unspoken and unspeakable, and coming to terms with what happened. Suddenly, perhaps step by step, they feel lighter, freer, more alive. They are no longer owned by their story, but become the owner of their story. They step from denial into ownership and authenticity. Admission and confession are steps towards success, so in many cases, the truth will literally set us free.

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Many of them have become passionate writers, running smaller or larger blocks, have written books or are writing for major news sites. Often what has started out of need and desperation became an inspired and fulfilling passion.

Everything starts with sitting down and acknowledging the past and present. One of our readers recently worded it beautifully in the following way (and inspired this blog – thank you very much):

“Ultimately I am a survivor … still angry though … so it’s so important to go through all the pain in writing and then bury it.”

Just for oneself. That’s where it starts. There is no need to share it with others or publish it. However, there is also no need to hide it and not publishing it. Everyone may decide for oneself, one day at a time.

The effects of storytelling are multifold: as soon as you begin writing, you become an author with the ability to own your past, or even create a legacy. Suddenly you might understand and see your true purpose in life. And just as you might have been inspired by reading accounts of overcoming hardship, so your story – if you decide to share it – will inspire other people like you to fight past hardships.

“Listen to the people who have been where you are, and are now where you want to be.”

 

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You could ignore this calling or get your story processed and written, because your untold story might need telling! For your own sake and healing, for your own progress and process; and maybe there might be people waiting to be inspired by what you have confronted and achieved in life, whether you think it’s insignificant or not.

Writing liberates people from self-doubt, shame and guilt, and it breaks the shackles that hold us back. We’ve compiled 10 reasons why you need to write your personal story. You shouldn’t wait to get started.

You can download them now or at the end of this post. Included in your free ebook, you’ll find Modules 1 and 2, including the free Step by Step process + free Story Post Template

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10 Reasons why Wrtiting your Personal Story will help you to overcome Trauma – The Essential Benefits to Processing and Writing your untold Personal Story (combined with many relevant exercises in the free workbook)

1)     It’s liberating
When you write for yourself, you enter a non-judgmental space where you can be completely open and honest. You are able to confront and acknowledge your deepest fears and desires.

2)     It’s cathartic
Writing aids in the process of cleansing and renewal and psychologists believe this process leads to relief from trauma.

3)     It spells freedom
We all know what it’s like to harbor a secret or to feel weighed down by an experience or thought we can’t get past. But to set yourself free, all you need to do is let the world in your secret. Once you’ve shared it, you’re on a path towards freedom.

4)     It makes you happier
Studies suggest that those of us who take the time to reflect on our lives and write about ourselves are generally happier. Writing reduces activity within the amygdala, the part of the brain which intensifies emotions, and is an outlet for those of us who feel stifled in our day-to-day lives.

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5)     It’s a means of reflection
Taking the time to write about your journey in life will give you the ability to look back on your past and reflect on all that you’ve overcome. Your life has been a series of peaks and troughs, but your achievements are worth remembering, and setting this down on paper will bring that realization to the fore.

6)     It gives you a sense of purpose and belonging
Compiling memories and emotions instantly connects you with the people who read and engage with your story. These connections are a powerful bond that aren’t easily broken.

7)     It’s never over
Writing gives you a sense of hope. There’s always another life lesson to reflect on and another page to fill, and getting into the routine of writing regularly will give you something to look forward to even on the darkest days.

8)     There are no rights and no wrongs
There’s no right or wrong way to express yourself. After all, this is your story and your journey, and we want to hear it. So don’t hold back – forget fear at the door and purge self-doubt once and for all.

9)     It boosts the immune system
Many doctors believe that unresolved psychological and emotional distress can badly affect the immune system. Writing is a way of overcoming this distress and putting stress-factors at bay. In the process, a healthy mind creates the gateway for a healthy body.

10)     You can be a role model
At MasterStories, we’re offering people the stage to inspire others. Aren’t you tired of the pessimism and negativity that suffuses the internet? We know who we are, and that’s why we believe in our storytellers approaching life with a lightheartedness of touch and a loving attitude to all.

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Excited to get started? The next step is to download your FREE online toolkit. You’ll get access to writers’ insights, will be guided through an easy step by step process, and will also receive a free story blog template.

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We highly recommend you write about your own traumatic events. Start just for yourself, to assist in your own process of further healing. Writing is a form of release, a form of therapy.

For inexperienced writers it might be difficult to start. That’s why MasterStories has set up some tips and tools on how to get started.


How to Write your personal Story: An Easy Step Formula of Do’s and Don’ts + Free Blog Post Template

 

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Liberate yourself. Serving others can add meaning and liberation – for yourself and others.

 

Why download this free guide?
  • Do you have a Personal Story to tell?
  • Do you believe the writing process of your personal story will bring you further insights, healing or discoveries?

If you answered with yes, this is the perfect course for you. It doesn’t matter if you want to write just for yourself, or if you are ready to share your story and inspire others in need of healing or inspiration.

Our aim is to support you until you’ve reached a level of writing you are happy with. Our promise to you is that with the free modules 1 and 2, you will be able to write your first personal story, even if you are an inexperienced writer. At the end of module 2 you will have written your personal story!

In the Free Module 1, you will learn the benefits of writing your personal story, and you are also invited to follow 10 little exercises related to the 10 essential Tips to Process and Write your untold Personal Story.

In the Free Module 2, you will:

  • Learn how to Write fast, write loose and worry about editing afterwardsThe minute you start writing, you’ll probably feel a flush of emotion as the story that’s been waiting to burst free is finally set into motion.
    But there’s the inexorable temptation to hold back when you’re on a roll, re-read what you’re writing and be overly critical of the way it sounds. Avoid that urge at all costs.
    By the time you’re finished, the page might look like a mess of words that only makes sense to you, but that’s where the editing process comes in. Start working out exactly what you’re trying to say, then make the message as simple as possible.
  • Learn how to Not censor yourself

The writing process is an exercise in catharsis, and catharsis isn’t possible if you’re holding back. Perhaps you’re embarrassed by the idea of coming clean on an addiction, or a spate of depression you’ve overcome – but don’t let that stop you from telling your story.
Every day, people all around the world struggle to come to terms with how they really feel. Censorship is the enemy here, and the goal is to come clean, exorcise your demons, and offer people an opportunity to learn from your experiences.
Whether you’re coming to terms with your life or have already mastered your story, never lose sight of the fact that people stand to learn from what you have to say.

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  • Learn to not only Describe – but to PrescribeThe beauty of writing about real life is that you can help your audience change the way they act. To do that, you need to find the balance between being descriptive and prescriptive.
    Describing your story in vivid detail places your reader in your shoes, but prescribing the steps you took afterwards goes one step beyond.
    Aim to tell your story truthfully, but remember to lay out the steps you took to overcome your challenges.
    Remember: we all have life lessons worth sharing.
  • Learn how to Write the way you would tell it

This is a question of style, but 9 times out of 10, it is best to write in a conversational style.
Unless you’re delivering an academic paper, you don’t need a thesaurus open beside your desk with a list of words no one uses. Don’t be stilted – be open and conversational.

  • Learn how to Do it for yourselfThe best writing is authentic, and it shows. Write because you can; because you want to; because the idea excites you. Write with honesty and integrity, and turn the exercise into a game designed to give you maximum benefit. That’ll spur you on to untold heights – and you’ll never lack motivation again.
  • Finally, learn how to making sure you do it!

To borrow the famous slogan coined by Nike – “Just Do It.” Don’t dilly dally – don’t dawdle. Get it done! The beauty of writing is the immediate effect it has on your wellbeing, but if you wait for lightning to strike, you’ll never reap those benefits.
The most successful writers, spiritualists and self-motivators sit down at their desk and start writing. It’s as simple as that. When they lose steam, they take a deep breath and refocus. Then they get back to work.
Seize the initiative. Just do it.

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